My boyfriend and I are approaching our 2 year anniversary in three weeks, and we've already passed our 1 year living together, and yet still no serious talk about engagement/weddings in our future.
Granted I talked to him about planning on having kids in about 3 years as I don't want to wait until I'm in my mid thirties for fear of affecting the probability of conceiving or having health issues with the baby. So it isn't like we don't talk about our future together but we NEVER talk directly about getting married.
Perhaps this is partially my fault. He is slow to act on any and everything. He's a worrier and a planner so if I don't start talking about things I want us to do they will never happen (ie babies or house renovations) because he doesn't like change and is happy to keep things the way they are since they work but when it comes to marriage I have this old fashion part of me that really wants to be surprised with a proposal.
I've been reading romance novels since I was twelve...I'm twenty seven now...so this is probably a main reason why I have this warped image of the perfect engagement, as opposed to the rest of my life that I live as a very modern woman - equality and all that stuff. Because of this I hesitate to bring up marriage in a direct conversation with him about us, just in case it turns into an agreement that we should get married and I miss the proposal!!! How unromantic is that?! Of course I realize that is completely ridiculous and now I'm debating about bringing it up with him and asking what's up. I just don't know how to broach this topic. It just never feels like the right time. It's on the tip of my tongue every day lately. I need to just bite the bullet!